That's a mouthful yet it is the truest thing on this Earth. I was discussing this matter yesterday with a friend when this was brought up. Two things I must have in a relationship is love and respect. Trust, honesty, etc. all falls under the respect category. To have these qualities you must have respect for self then others in order to even appreciate this. If you can respect me then you can love me and I know this maybe hard to internalize, but you know if you don't respect people then you won't like them, love them nor understand them.